So whats your story
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If these elements are missing from your career story, the tale will fall flat.
Most people spent their allotted two minutes and lost the attention of those around them before they even reached the punch line—the description of what they were seeking. Each of us in transition feels like that character.
First, describe the position you want. When we want someone to know us, we share stories of our childhoods, our families, our school years, our first loves, the development of our political views, and so on.
What’s your story?
A couple days later, I headed to Tartu, quickly forgetting about the encounter. Emphasizing Continuity and Causality Now it becomes understandable why so many speakers in that networking meeting failed to do more than recite facts. Three incidents in quick succession made up her mind. Sam chose to focus on start-ups as the result of a process that began with examining his own experience.
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While he was energized by the interplay between individuals and organizations, he hated the mundane, administrative aspects of the work. It was a misguided strategy, for listeners are particularly sensitive to lapses of coherence in life stories. They actually look for coherence in such stories.
After studying her carefully over those two days, it was clear I stumbled upon a gem. We present ourselves tour safe—and dull and unremarkable.
Your story has inherent drama
We need them to convince ourselves that our story makes sense, and listeners like them because they spin stories off in exciting new directions. Both of us had clearly lost our ability to care much for the answers, but there was no hard feelings. Once you start living your life like an interesting story, it has no choice but to become one. They demonstrate that, at your core, the person you were yesterday is the person you are today and the person you will be tomorrow.
You can practice your stories in many ways and places. And I certainly would stiry struggled to come up with a thoughtful answer if prompted by it. As a result, Sam gave up on finding or keeping a boss he could work with in a corporate setting.
What’s your story?
There are stories of being tested and stories of being punished. But falling 0-for-3 on being coherent, interesting, or even slightly attractive, we declined. One of us, in the context of writing a book, has studied a wide variety of major career shifts; the other has worked extensively with organizations and individuals on the use of narrative to bring about positive change. Keep your reasons for change grounded in your character, in who you are.
We were temporarily at capacity on meeting new people. Those who did leave time to wrap up tended merely to list the four or five disparate things they might be interested in pursuing next.
Each time she wrote a cover letter, interviewed, or updated friends and family on her progress, she better defined what was exciting to her; and in each public declaration of her intent to change careers, she committed herself further. I decided to start living with intention. Of course.
It's your turn
We use stories to reinvent ourselves. But our lives only become an interesting story when we care enough to describe them as such. A coherent life story is one that suggests what we all want to believe of ourselves and those we help or hire—that our lives are series of unfolding, linked events stkry make sense.
Why did most of them try to frame the changes in their lives as incremental, logical extensions of what they were doing before? First, she attended a conference on organizational change where she heard industry gurus speak and met other people working in the field. But you cannot get there until you put yourself in front of others—ultimately, in front of strangers—and watch their faces and body syory as you speak.
Second, her firm went through an acquisition, and the restructuring meant a new position for her, one fraught with political jockeying. In his zeal for Jewish law, Saul had become a violent persecutor of Christians. Coherence is the solid ground under our feet.
Certain forms—love stories, war stories, epics—are as old as narrative itself. Something worthy of a remark.
The scales fall from our eyes, and the right course becomes obvious—or taking xtory leap suddenly looks easy. Why did they fail to play up the narrative twists and turns?
Why you need a story
This is not to suggest that you hide anything or prevaricate. What could be more dramatic?
And a good Friend told me about Tartu. After one of them engaged him for a series of consulting asments, he was able to eo that relationship into a job as chief administrative officer.